Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Prince or Poser? How to ID an Authentic Profile

9 Sept 2008

We’ve all met that certain someone. You know the guy or gal who just seemed absolutely perfect for us…maybe too perfect. Fact is, when you have the security of a phone between you and that someone special, some daters might be tempted to embellish or outright exaggerate their appearance, personality, lifestyle or career.

Now, some people actually do see themselves differently than what they physically and emotionally portray in person. Other folks just can’t resist the temptation to work in a little white lie here and there. When it comes to making the call between fact and fiction, there are some tell-tale signs to help you read between the lines of a phone chat profile .

  • The Perfect Specimen : The voice recording for this would-be date might sound something like “I’m a 6”1, 190 pound, blond hair, blue-eyed male with an athletic build seeking woman of the same. I don’t have any problem finding a date . In fact, I get hit on just about every day. It’s exhausting. I’m looking for my soul mate who will appreciate me for me.” Ok gals, who is this guy? He’s actually shared nothing with you. And without a picture to back up his Brad Pitt description, you’ve got to be left wondering. Plus, any chat profile recording that spends this much time highlighting his attributes is a red flag that he may be just a little narcissistic.

  • Great Job, Great Life : This recording is likely to blow you away. You’ll hardly believe your luck in finding this tempting tidbit. Not only is he the CEO of his own firm, but on weekends, he’s just dying to jet-off to Paris for some fine French fare with a lucky lady. Ok, it’s unlikely any profile would paint such an over-the-top picture of a would-be date’s life, but do be skeptical of careers and lifestyles that sound like an except from Lifestyle of the Rich and Famous. Until you chat with this date , and get a feel for the authenticity of his profile, take this one with a large grain of salt.

  • You Should Be So Lucky : Her profile might allude to her Playboy measurements, Nigella Lawson-like flare in the kitchen and her passion for all your favourite sports. You might even feel like you’ve just met your dream girl . Problem is…she’s probably just a figment of her own imagination. Uhm, yeah, ‘cause how many guys wouldn’t want to date this gal? Here’s the deal: she may actually believe she’s this goddess of a woman. However, the reality might not measure up to the fantasy she’s created.

  • What They Say, What They Mean : The profile of this dater might emphasize their need for a serious, long-term relationship . But in the next breath will outline their hectic BlackBerry dictated schedule. If you read between the lines on this one, this workaholic or social bee may think they’re looking for a long time love , but what their profile is actually communicating is the need to fit their date into an already crammed life. In other words, this date may have all the best intentions in the world, but a long-term relationship just isn’t in the cards. Make sure you chalk this one up to a casual date opportunity .

  • Finding the One : The profile of this dater will talk about meeting “ the one .” Now, this alone isn’t a red flag. But, if this dater elaborates about who the one is, right down to their supermodel looks and Mother Theresa demeanor, you may realize living up to their ideal of the “perfect match” is far from realistic. In reality, this would-be date needs to tune into reality before he/she could ever get turned on by you.

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    Minding Your P’s & Q’s on Chat

    2 Sept 2008

    Make sure you listen as much as you talk. Resist the temptation to spill any dirty details about your ex. Don’t dive into dinner until both your meals have been served. Pretty simple, huh? That’s because these everyday examples of real-world dating etiquette are so common they’re like breathing for most of us. But how does dating etiquette translate into making the right impression when you record a phone chat message? Check out our top tips below…

  • Cheat Sheet : Feeling a little nervous about leaving your inaugural voice recording ? Relieve the pressure with a handy cheat sheet. Simply jot down some easy-to-remember notes to help avoid any awkward silences.

  • The Basic 411 : Your message should capture the basics. Share details like your general build (slim, couple of extra pounds); hair colour; the kind of relationship you want (casual dating, relationship intimate encounter etc.) and work in a little quip that captures your best features (e.g. your sense of humour).

  • Wants, Needs & More : Go ahead, talk about what you want. In general terms. Share some basic information about yourself, but hold back on divulging any deep dark secrets. This might be a good time to share your top three “must have” relationship or dating criteria . For example, if a pet is a potential deal-breaker, now might be a good time to work it into the conversation.

  • Dirty Talk : Unless you’re after an intimate encounter or prefer a ride on the wild side , it’s probably best to keep your frilly little verbal nothings safely stored in your subconscious. We’re all for spicing things up, but early phone chat etiquette reveals it best to keep dirty talk to a minimum.

  • Me, Myself & I : Remember the goal is to learn more about your would-be date . If you feel like you’re revealing too much or that your voice recording could lead to more of a monologue than a dialogue, refer to that handy cheat sheet.

  • Mumblers & Low Talkers : How frustrating would it be to get a message from a would-be date that you need an interpreter to dissect? Even if you’re the next hottest thing , a hard-to-understand recording will take the sizzle out of the spicy you instantly. Remember to speak clearly and calmly. Take the time to review your recording .

  • All Talk, No Action : You’re probably thinking—“I’m making a voice recording where’s the action in that?” Here’s the deal: instead of talking about how laid back your lifestyle is or waxing poetic about your passion for running…work in a quick story that makes this point. For example, you could talk about your Saturday morning newspaper & coffee routine. Or share all the details about your latest race.
  • Thursday, July 24, 2008

    Connect with Live 1-on-1 Chat

    Connect with Live 1-on-1 Chat

    Want to get in on the action of a 1-on-1 live chat phone chat? Really, it’s high-time you discovered what you’ve been missing. First let’s ease your mind about a few key details. Throughout the chat, you’ll remain anonymous. The 1-on-1 chat is your chance to participate in a safe, private forum where you remain, at all times, in complete control of the situation.

    The best part is you can instantly interact with other members who are hanging out in the chat room. Here’s how it works… When you enter the live chat, you’ll be asked to record a greeting. Keep it simple, keep it short. Make sure to let the other folks in the room know a thing or two about you. Now that you’re in the chat room, you can listen to greetings from other members.

    Really, it’s the quickest way to make a connection. Not only do you have the chance to listen to other folks’ greetings, but you can instantly respond to their message. Now, if you’re just not into someone in the room, no worries! Just skip past their message. But it you do hear someone or something you like, work up the courage, send them a message. And if you’re really hitting it off, you can even hook-up for a private 1-on-1 rendezvous.

    It all feels so natural. It’s just like being on the phone with a friend. Except now it’s you, the phone and few other people hanging out. Remember, your privacy is always protected. You never have to worry about your phone number being revealed. You make the call on whether you want to accept or decline any messages. Someone really getting under your skin? Block them from sending future messages to you.

    Need to check out an email? Pick up another call? Yep, you can do that too. You can put a live QuestChat on hold for up to five minutes without disconnecting from the live 1-on-1 chat. Don’t worry about missing any of the action either. Any messages you receive, while away on your five minute hiatus, will be waiting for you.

    Next Up : Mumbling, grumbling, background noise…get the scoop on phone chat do’s and don’ts in our etiquette how-to blog.

    Wednesday, July 23, 2008

    Make it a Message to Remember

    Personal Profiles: Make it a Message to Remember

    At some time in our lives, we’ve all had stage fright. Making that first call, or leaving your first online chat voice message, can take you right back to that moment. It’s time to warm-up those cold feet! Really, it’s so much easier (and fun!) to leave a chat message than to present in front of a zillion people. For one thing, you can always re-record your greeting. Hey, not too many things in life come with an instant replay!

    First things first, think of your voice message as personal marketing 101 . There are a lot of other daters vying for your potential date’s attention. That means your message has to separate you from the crowd. What makes you unique and desirable? Did your potential match say anything in his/her profile that caught your attention? If you can, without sounding too practiced, include this personal tidbit from their message in your voice recording. That way, you start to form a connection…even before you have a 1-on-1 conversation .

    Do avoid the rambling foot-in-mouth-message. Be confident and precise. Got a mini-list of must-have dating criteria ? This might be a good time to discreetly work a couple of these points into your message. Be honest, clear and direct about who you are, gently suggesting what you might be after. Whatever you do, don’t forget who you’re talking to…a potential date .

    With that in mind, put any talk about an ex on ice. That goes double for details about a past relationship, lovers or even the spat you had last night with your mother/sister/brother. Remember, this is your first introduction to this date , make sure you leave the right impression. On that note, consider inserting a little “teasin’ & pleasin” into your message . Reveal something about yourself that shows the cute, funny, quirky, adventurous (you fill in the blank!) side of ou.

    Don’t forget the closer: invite him/her to contact you . It can be as simple as, “Interested in learning more? Get in touch.”; “Hey, I’d love to hear from you.”; “Leave me a message and we can connect for a chat.” How you say it is completely up to you, but the final invite just may put all the pieces together for you.

    Next-up: Your personal guide to exploring the Live 1-on-1 chat.

    Tuesday, July 15, 2008

    New Iowa and Nebraska Chat Lines for Quest

    Quest Chat Line is please to announce the introduction four new markets, three in Iowa and one in Nebraska, in our North American Chat Line community:

    Davenport Chat Line, Iowa (563) 449-5656
    Cedar Rapids Chat Line, Iowa (319) 730-3838
    Des Moines Chat Line, Iowa (515) 309-4747
    Omaha Chat Line, Nebraska (402) 408-9090

    Quest is the fastest growing adult and telephone personals dating community in America, Canada, and the UK connecting thousands of local single women and local single men everyday in over 300 cities across North America and over 65 cities in the United Kingdom. If you are interested in telephone chat, dating, or simply want to party with local single women and men, Quest has what you want.

    Text Alerts Keep You in Touch

    Text Alerts Keep You in Touch
    Now that you’re all set-up on the chat phone lines, you may be wondering how to keep yourself in the dating loop. What if you’re planning to tune out while you’re away for the next few days? Let’s face it, as much as we’d all love to hook-up for a chat, sometimes life just gets in the way. Does that mean you have to miss out on a potential date?

    Not with QuestChat text alerts. As long as you have your cell phone with you, you’ll always be in the know. Even when you’re not hanging out with your chat friends. You’ll never miss the opportunity to meet your Mr. or Ms. Right, because even when you’re not on the chat phone line , you’ll get a text alert.

    And it’s so simple to use. Best of all, it’s FREE. Here’s how it works… As soon as a new message appears in your QuestChat mailbox, it will be sent to your text enabled cell phone. All you need to do is make sure you’re cell phone is set-up to receive text messages.

    It’s a fun, safe and convenient way to always be in the know. Really, how would you feel if that amazing person just signed up for your Custom Category and you missed them? Imagine if your new best friend (with potential to be at least a friend with benefits…) wanted to chat and you weren’t there? With text alerts, you’ll stay connected 24/7.

    Want to get this service working for you? Call QuestChat from your cell phone. Select option 6…and voila…you’re all set-up to receive text alerts. Remember, this is a FREE feature with this chat phone line service. But your cell phone service provider may charge a fee for these text messages. Happy texting!

    Feeling a bit spoiled for choice by all the tempting members on QuestChat? Next-up: tips to help you effectively choose the ads that suit your dating style!

    Finding Love in All the Right Places

    Finding Love in All the Right Places

    With so many great categories to choose from on QuestChat, it can be a bit overwhelming to find the one(s) that’s right for you. You can choose from Love & Steady Relationships; Casual Dates & Get Togethers; Intimate Encounters; Wild Sideand Couples & Swingers. Which one of these categories best captures the date you want? Remember, you can hang-out in as many groups as you like. And, no matter what choice you make, you’ll always remain anonymous. So, it’s fun, safe and private.

    Does a certain category catch your fancy? Save it as a Custom Category. By doing this, you can select the minimum and maximum age of any potential date in this group. Plus, when you choose a Custom Category,every time you log into the chat phone line and go into your Black Book, you’ll access this group. Instantly, you’ll know who’s available to chat. Plus, you’ll get the scoop on any new members who joined the group since you last dialed in.

    Now that you’ve figured out which category matches your dating criteria, it’s time to get into the nitty gritty of listening to the ads. Here are some tips to maximize your listening pleasure:

    • Play it Again : Think you didn’t catch the last word? Select the #1 to replay the last 10 seconds of the ad.

    • Neeext : If the ad you’re listening to just doesn’t do it for you, press #3 and skip to the next ad.

    • Get the 411 : Someone’s ad sound like music to your ears? Find out more about them (e.g. like the last time they were online) by selecting this option after you hear the ad.

    • Your New BFF : Think you might want to hook-up with a certain date for a chat? Add them to your friend’s list. That way, it’s oh-so-easy to find them again.

    You’ve worked up the courage to find and listen to the right ads. So, what next? Yeah, it’s time to make your move. Get their attention with a flirty wink phrase. Or, gulp, record a greeting that will knock them for six. Relax, it’s easy!

    Need a tip or two for calming your jittery do-I-really-have-to-record-a-message nerves? Next-up: surefire tips to help you make the right first impression.